Recent research has revealed that how a couple communicates will determine the success of that relationship. Typical conflicts involve financial concerns, sexual issues, parenting differences and sharing of household responsibilities. There has been an unfortunate trend in couples' counseling, where couples have been encouraged to separate or divorce, due to minor differences.  Most conflicts in relationships can be resolved with effective therapy. Some spouses may declare that they need “to find themselves” or that they are “not in love anymore.” Self-discovery is not limited by maintaining a love relationship. We do not “find ourselves” by running away from relationships. Relationships are rather a mirror of who we are. We can not run away from ourselves, by leaving someone who loves us. Often, there are changes that we need to make. You learned to love your spouse when you got to know them. If you learned to love them before, you can learn to love them again. Some individuals claim that they are divorcing “for the sake of the children.” There are severe situations, where this may be true. However, most situations do not warrant this claim. Research has demonstrated that divorce has life-long consequences for children. Therefore, running away from relationships teaches our children to run away from problems. There is hope for your relationship, no matter how far down the divorce path you have gone. Please remember it may only take one spouse making changes to change the whole relationship. Patrick may be able to help your relationship, even if you come to therapy alone. He can teach you the communication skills and strategies you need to enhance your relationships. Don’t wait for problems to magnify. Get the help you need today.